13 Tips for a better husband and wife relationship!!!
Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. If you follow this rule, your marriage will have a much greater chance for success. If you discard this rule, failure is just around the corner.
1. Never be emotionally
Never be emotionally, mentally, or physically abusive to your spouse. The Prophet, Solace and blessings be upon him, never mistreated his wives. He is reported to have said: 'How could they beat their women in daytime as slaves and then sleep with them in the night?"
2. Be Partners in the Decision Making Process
Follow the principle of consultation, and make decisions as a family. There will be much more harmony in the family when decisions are not imposed and everyone feels that they had some part in making them.
3. Be Careful of Your Words
Be very careful what you say when you are upset. Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry. If you are angry, wait until you calm down before continuing the conversation.
4. Show Affection
Show affection for your mate. Be kind, gentle, and loving.
5. Be Your Spouse's Friend
Show interest in your mate's life. Too often, we live in the same house but know nothing about each others lives. It would be great if the husband and wife could work together for the same cause or on the same project.
6. Show Appreciation
Show appreciation for what your spouse does for the family. Never make your husband feel that he is not doing good enough for the family or that you are not satisfied with his work or his efforts, unless, of course, he is truly lazy and not even trying to provide for the family. The Prophet was reported to have said: 'On the Day of Judgment, God will not look upon the woman who has been ungrateful to her husband. Show your wife that you appreciate her. If she takes care of the house and the children, don't take it for granted. It is hard work, and no one likes to feel unappreciated.
7. Communication is Important
Communication, Communication, Communication! This is the big word in counseling. And it should be. Husbands and wives need to talk to each other. It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until an explosion occurs.
8. Forget Past Problems
Don't bring up past problems once they have been solved.
9. Live Simply
Don't be jealous of those who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. In order to develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more.
10. Give Your Spouse Time Alone
If your mate doesn't want to be with you all the time, it doesn't mean he or she doesn't love you. People need to be alone for various reasons. Sometimes they want to read, to think about their problems, or just to relax. Don't make them feel that they are committing a sin.
11. Admit Your Mistakes
When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never go to sleep angry with each other.
12. Physical Relationship is Important
Be available to your mate sexually, and don't let your sexual relationship be characterized by selfishness.
13. Have Meals Together
Try to eat together as a family when possible. Show the cook and the dishwasher, whether it is the husband or the wife, appreciation for his or her efforts.